6 Signs that you're the toxic one

Self-accountability and awareness don’t come easy for many of us. Our ego tend to feed our toxicity and help us believe that we are never the problem. Everyone is out to get us. We are perfect being, and everyone else is flawed. Trust me, you are the problem.

I struggle with my own toxic behavior as well. Thanks to years in therapy, I’m able to pinpoint those traits and hold myself accountable. I am able to check myself, before I wreck myself (or others). Part of adulting(not a word, i know) is being aware of your bs. Having the ability to know when you’re completely wrong, and apologize to those you have wronged. The ability to put aside your pride and your ego. During my journey of self-awareness and I’m still on that journey, my therapist whom I’ve called my ‘blind-spot’ has always been able to see things from a different perspective. I have always been open to her perceptive, because I’m paying her too much money weekly not to be open to her suggestion.

The list below is not here to make you feel shitty, but to make you do some soul-searching. To help you start your journey of self-awareness . The journey to a better and healthier version of you.

  1. IT'S NEVER YOUR FAULT

    It's a red flag if you feel like everyone in your life is out to get you. It's you versus everyone else. It's  never your fault.   

  2. PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE

    You just can't communicate honestly and respectfully. Rather than reflecting on the situation and communicate your feelings honestly. You use tactics such as:  blaming, silent treatment

  3. IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOU

    The world revolves around you. You don't care how your words, and actions impact others.

  4. YOU'RE STUCK IN YOUR WAYS

    You cannot get down from your high horse, and see others' perspective.

  5. YOU FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE

    You're negative. You're always complaining. It's draining to be around you.

  6. YOU'RE MEAN

    You're rude and say cruel things to others and mask it as you're just being honest.

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