ALONE BUT NOT LONELY

Sometimes it’s not easy to cultivate self-love or self-worth in a society that is obsessed with telling us we’re not good enough.

Since the middle of last year is when I first started to really appreciate time to and with myself.  From this I’ve learned being alone doesn’t mean you’re unwanted.  Being alone doesn’t mean you’re boring or whack.  Being alone doesn’t mean you’re wasting precious time. Spending time with yourself is just as important as spending time with others. But we aren’t taught to value our own company.  I know some people that dread being by themselves and nowadays it’s easier to seem like we aren’t physically alone since we’re able to access so many people through social media at any given time. People have become more focused on trying to be liked by others and not just loving or accepting themselves as is. Trying to live up to false expectations or even trying to mimic someone else’s life instead of being completely present in their own.

I was watching a documentary and a question that stood out to me was - Did you ever think you were a person but you’re actually a combination of projections you’ve absorbed over the years?   Think about that one.

We’re human beings that are very much vulnerable to outside influences especially to things we are repeatedly told or see.  That’s why being alone is so soo important. Not just away from people but from technology and media as well. The more we have access to each other the more damaging it can be.

 We live in an interesting time where our privacy and alone time are usually bombarded. My grandma tells me stories of not talking with her close friends or boyfriend at the time for days which was completely normal. Today, we feel some type of way when someone doesn’t answer our text or DM within 5 minutes.  No one is entitled to anything from you and vice versa.  Taking time to really soak in your own presence without distraction is when true learning and healing begins.  Most times we find that we don’t even have a problem with ourselves it’s really the world that has the problem with us. Ultimately, you can be nothing but yourself. So cultivating that self-love and working on building a healthy self-esteem is essentially our armor from society that has been constantly telling us that it’s not cool to be ourselves and that you aren’t complete until you have someone else.

Time spent with yourself is never time wasted.  Staying inside is just as valuable as going out.  We sometimes get that uneasy feeling that we‘re wasting our lives when we see other people out having fun.  Take time to step away from everything and everyone once in a while.  Read a book, lay on the floor and stare up at the ceiling, watch your favorite TV show or movie by yourself, and maybe even pick up the habit to not scroll through your timeline when you get “bored”.

Just Be   - Be Present

If you think about it like this - we are never really alone, because ultimately we have ourselves. Don’t forget that you are a whole person, like you are legit an entire conscious human being sitting here reading this. Feel secure in that, feel secure in your presence, feel secure in your love.